How do you expand your capacity for a ‘is capable of doing’ attitude?
Why are these claims important? Because if your child or teen says “I can’t… (eat that/do that/learn that)” it prevents them exploring whatever they can do.
Hearing someone declare a limitation before real time capability-testing may be frustrating because it is a sloppy recall of an failure-memory instead of imagineering-success. If you believe their ‘can’t’ you accept their limitation. Yet seeking to persuade them how they ‘can’ practice it (they ARE capable in the end) so frequently engages a battle that sends them into your justification corner.
Helping children and teenagers experience more in your everyday living, not less, means they are able to expand their mental map of the things they can do with their brain.
This example from the Happy Brain programme, coaches a 10 years old child via an experience of quality value to them. Gaming could be the child’s value. We’ll call the kid Joseph.
“Joseph, is it time for more brain training guidelines to help you build more super mind-powers? Would you like to know a good, simple solution to feel more confident? How about to be a more confident gamer?”
Of course, answering yes to the deserves congratulations because what a champion mindset attitude.
“Can you imagine feeling stronger and even more confident while gaming?
Let’s perform mind experiment:
Using my PES scale 1-10 check all about those feelings as you say to yourself (loudly) the next statements:
measurement of emotions
I CAN become a confident gamer.
I WANT to are more confident gamer.
I WILL be a little more confident gamer.
I AM starting to be confident gamer.
Which word (IN CAPITALS) helped you really feel most confident?
Notice how these words drive an electricity for you to move TOWARDS the range of becoming a confident gamer. How do you are feeling saying these words?
This is significant because nothing in your own life has changed, only your range of language telling your head which feelings will help you are feeling more powerful, clear and determined.
AND overturn is also true, let’s try another mind experiment:
Using my PES scale 1-10 check your feelings as you say to yourself (loudly) this statements:
I CAN’T become an even more confident gamer.
I DON’T WANT to turn into a ” ” “
I WILL NOT be a ” ” “
I AM NOT learning to be a ” ” “
Oh dear, these words drive an electricity for you to move AWAY FROM the choice of more and more confident. Instead the text tell your head to reduce the options. How do you’re feeling saying those words? Which word (IN CAPITALS) left you feeling least confident? Crazy huh? How a few small words can alter your feelings of motivation!
Again, although nothing inside your life has changed, only your range of language has caused your emotions (motivation) to flop towards less confident.
So which words perform the best for you?
Now you reach CHOOSE no matter whether you deliberately drive your head TOWARDS or AWAY FROM the a feeling of confidence in gaming, maybe in fact, in different area of your daily life (school, hobbies, friendships etc). How do you sense about that?
Try this out:
I CAN practise developing my head power.
I WANT to practise developing my head power
I WILL practise developing my head power
I AM practise developing my thoughts power
I CAN’T practise developing my head power
I DON’T WANT practise developing my thoughts power
I WILL NOT practise developing my head power
I AM NOT practise developing my thoughts power
Which words (IN CAPITALS) help you really feel the strongest motivation?
I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this mind experiment. Why not try it with the friends at college and assist them to to realise how powerful their selection of words might be. Special agent Joseph, inform me what you discover!”